In a pan on medium heat, add 2 tablespoons of oil and fry okra for about 4-5 minutes and season with salt to taste. Fry until the okra becomes green and is partly cooked. Remove from the pan and set aside.
In the same pan add remaining oil, add your cumin seeds and saute for 30 seconds until fragrant.
Add your chopped red chillies and follow with diced red onion
Saute until your onions begin to become translucent and add your minced ginger and garlic. Sautee for a minute.
Add your diced tomato and saute for 6 - 10 minutes until water from tomatoes has reduced and tomato begins to get mushy.
With the pan on low, add your dry spices, turmeric, paprika, garam masala and fenugreek leaves and mix in and season with salt to taste. Do not over season, remember your okra is also seasoned.
Add your okra into the pan, mix well and taste, and adjust seasoning if necessary and serve with other elements.